Life Connections

The quote “That there are no random acts. That we are all connected.   That you can no more separate one life from another than you can separate a breeze from the wind,” is a very profound statement.  When the Blue man held out his hand and said, “Fairness does not govern life and death.  If it did, no good person would ever die young.” instantly reminded me of my family.  I have heard great stories about my grandfather, but I have never had the opportunity to meet him because he passed away when my mother was only sixteen years old.  Several of my great aunts and uncle also passed at an early age and they were not horrible people.  In fact, they were very loving people who cherished their family.  The statement allowed me to better understand death and that no one can escape it. The death of my grandfather caused my mother to attend Southern University instead of Grambling University.  Had my mother attended Grambling University instead of Southern University, she wouldn’t have met my father and I would not exist. My grandfather’s death affected my mother’s decision as to where she would attend college.

 The death of a family member can also bring families closer because they suddenly realize that life is uncertain. Our great uncle to pass in March, he died of cancer and his wife never really communicate with our family. As a result of his death, she begin to communicate with us and attend family events.  Holidays and family reunions become important to everyone because you don’t know if and when you will see your love ones again. Our family reunion was in June and my uncle absence was a constant reminder of how life is again uncertain.  You can’t escape what is destined to happened, but you can control how you react to events in life.   You can learn from it and make an effort to be a better person or you can use it as an excuse to make bad decisions. Whatever choice you make is a reaction to an event that ultimately had an effect on your life.